by Ada Porat | Sep 25, 2025 | Decision-making, Empowering changes, Life skills
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Freedom is often misunderstood.
We usually associate freedom with revolutions, rebels without a cause, fighting for independence – breaking rules and doing whatever we want instead of what’s expected.
We tend to equate freedom with revolt – reactionary rule-breaking and dramatic exits.
However, authentic freedom is quieter: it acts from understanding. From that lucid place of insight, it simply unhooks and moves on, without fuss or fanfare.
The purest expression of freedom is a clean departure. Not the broadcasted exit of “I’m mad at this group so I’m leaving!” which tends to be followed by the reply “You’re not an airport; no need to announce your departure.”
The optimal move toward freedom is to naturally outgrow the situation.
It is based on understanding that everyone is in their own process, moving within their own timing. And so, when our frequency no longer matches a person or a situation, we simply find what does.
True freedom is based on the foundation of being true to oneself and one’s own path – not driven by what the collective wants us to strive for: societal recognition, success, or approval.
True freedom embodies the clarity that asks: “All these things are fine, but who’s the real me beyond these roles?”
Along our quest for freedom, life often responds with unexpected, quick shifts and upheavals – because when a situation is outgrown, moving on is the natural next step.
And when we resist change, it tends to erupt through our efforts at control. Whenever life upends our expectations, we really shouldn’t be surprised because when we pay attention, signs show up before the event. They may be subtle, but they’re there if we’re willing to see.
True freedom also comes from understanding that even when we feel forced into a situation, we always have a choice – if not in concrete measures, then at least in how we respond and frame the experience.
When we frantically chase after freedom as a form of escape, it’s often because we’ve skipped a step: we haven’t yet fully accepted responsibility for where we are at. Ironically, taking full responsibility is a prerequisite for freedom that sets the baseline from where change can happen.
Freedom – real freedom – must be earned. And when we sit back and wait for others to hand it to us, freedom becomes a very lonely goddess indeed.
As counterintuitive as it may sound when we clamor for freedom, true freedom requires us to take responsibility for where we’re at – by keeping promises, learning the rules, respecting hierarchies, doing the unglamorous reps, and eating some humble pie. Personal responsibility develops a container for freedom that is disciplined, not a license to plunder.
How many times have we been unhappy with the rules and demands of the world? But these rules and demands are what hold society together – without them, there’d be chaos, and we’d be affected too.
How many times have we been sure we knew better than a parent, teacher, manager, or leader? Guilty, guilty, guilty and guilty!
There’s a reason why these people have the roles they do: it involves some sort of structure, discipline, commitment and effort: ladder climbing, accumulated experience, and doing at least some things right.
And if they don’t do a good job, they will eventually face the consequences – but we don’t know that, and that’s their journey, not ours. Blaming others is a sorry excuse for our lack of responsibility.
Trying to bypass the work of personal responsibility and then reach for freedom may give us a sugar high – a fleeting glimpse of what resembles freedom – but this might just be our ego having an ‘I’m important’ moment. It does not last.
When we skip the work of building self-responsibility through discipline, the freedom we find is not liberating – it’s alienating. It becomes a free-for-all, a frenzy of endless ego appetites and demands.
We drown in random options. We get overwhelmed with choice. We don’t know what or who to trust because we haven’t yet developed truthful discernment through appropriate self-discipline and structure, and so we secretly wish for a powerful parental figure to rescue us.
We see this process playing out collectively in democracy – where the lowest common denominator tends to be based on the cravings of the collective ego, rather than the disciplined actions of self-constraint and commitment to a higher path.
Without grounding in self-responsibility, democracy can leave people lost and disoriented, and so they revert back to outdated, top-down control systems to restore a sense of the familiar, even when it is a devil they know.
Such freedom is not real freedom. It cannot last, and it does more harm than good.
When our psyche is integrated through honest self-responsibility and diligence, we develop individual competence and the ability to navigate the material world. Over time, we naturally outgrow the limiting old containers. We no longer need to use attack as a form of defense, and we no longer need to run from reality.
Where are you on the inner path to freedom? Are you developing self-discipline to support your growth?
We’re all aware of areas within us that need shoring up to support our journey: better time management, healthy boundaries, expanding our skill set, taking care of our physical body and health, honoring our spiritual core, becoming more accountable for our actions. Perhaps there’s a need to soberly assess a situation or person we’ve outgrown, so we can unhook to create more space for personal freedom.
Freedom is not a destination; it is a journey of continuous growth and improvement. When you focus on developing a container of self-discipline and self-responsibility, you will naturally outgrow what feels too tight. You will reach for freedom not from fear, but from a place of empowered expansion and growth.
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by Ada Porat | Aug 20, 2025 | Conscious living, Empowering changes, Healthy boundaries, Life skills, Personal growth
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Have you ever found yourself keeping silent when you longed to speak, or holding back because you feared attack? Author Anna Runkle calls this crapfitting – shrinking yourself to fit the limitations or expectations of others.
How would you live if you stopped shrinking your truth to avoid criticism? Here are seven reminders to help you quit playing small and live with quiet dignity.
You don’t need to be admired to be whole.
Every time you trade your truth for approval or dim your light to avoid standing out, you erode your inner ground. Many of us do this because we learned that love was conditional, that belonging had to be earned.
But you were whole before the world asked you to conform. When we chase admiration, we anchor our worth to the fleeting opinions of others, drifting away from our own wellspring for the temporary approval of others. Your identity is not the sum of the roles you play; it is intrinsic to your being.
Think of the people who’ve touched your life most deeply. It wasn’t their fame that mattered – it was their presence. In the same way, when you live from your soul’s presence, it’s the way you make others feel that will be remembered.
Real presence doesn’t perform.
True presence is rooted in awareness, not approval. It is the stillness of a soul being fully present, having the strength to speak less yet effect more, and the grace to hold silence without fear.
Real presence is not about proving yourself; but being freed from the need to impress because you choose to be aligned within. In a world that shouts for attention, real presence whispers with clarity and lands deeply. The ones who listen fully and act with intention remain in our memory long after the loudest voices fade.
You don’t need to dazzle anyone. Just be present: whole, honest, and clear.
Self-regulation is the root of compassion.
At times, you may feel yourself pulled away from your center by the moods, needs and demands of others. In trying to appease their needs, you may abandon your own.
Self-regulation is not rigid control; it’s the art of remaining whole amid the pull of life. It is knowing your limits, setting healthy boundaries, and finding your way back when you stray. And from this inner steadiness, compassion naturally flows.
So, if you want more compassion in your life, protect your inner peace. A heart that’s self-regulated creates space for wisdom and compassion to grow. And when you no longer betray yourself to find acceptance, your love becomes the kind that heals.
Your boundaries are sacred.
Self-diminishing rarely happens all at once – it seeps in quietly: a compromise here, a forced smile there, the “yes” you didn’t want to give. Bit by bit, you trade yourself for a false peace that never lasts.
Boundaries are not walls; they are acts of truth. They say, I will not participate in my own diminishing. It is a commitment to yourself to not disappear in order to be loved. It is the way you live as though your time, your breath, and your spirit matter – because they do! Boundaries are the middle path between hardness and surrender: respect for yourself and for others, in equal measure.
Holding a boundary does not make you unkind – it’s an act of truth that makes you whole. When you stop shrinking to keep others comfortable, some will drift away. Let them. Their absence creates space for your true life to grow.
Even silence has a cost when it hides your pain.
There is a silence that heals, and a silence that hides. The first is chosen; the second chooses you.
When silence shields your truth to protect others from discomfort, it costs you more than it spares. True peace is not the absence of conflict but the presence of honesty. You don’t need to speak with anger to set a boundary; you only need to speak with truth. Hidden silence delays reckoning; it keeps outer peace outside while wounding you within.
You can break the cycle by understanding that expressing pain is not weakness, and that withholding it is not kindness. So speak your truth, even if softly, even when you feel shaky. Let your words be an offering of honesty, not aggression. In doing so, you embody peace that neither compromises nor disappears.
Love yourself as an unfinished masterpiece.
You are not a project to be perfected. You are a sacred unfolding of Divine potential. Self-love does not need to wait until you’re good enough; it begins here, in the messy cracks, as an ongoing becoming.
It’s not self-indulgence; it is refusing to speak to yourself in ways that deepen suffering. It lets you rest without guilt, forgiving yourself for what you didn’t know; and celebrating small joys without waiting for “someday.”
You are not a flawed version of someone better – you are a masterpiece in progress, so commit to be your own steadfast companion on the journey. Even an unfinished masterpiece is already art, and you are both the canvas and the artist.
The journey shapes you more than the outcome ever will.
In life, we’re taught to chase the finish line – success as proof we’ve arrived, failure as proof we haven’t. Yet the Yet the deepest transformation happens not in arriving, but along the journey. Too often we overlook the strength being woven into each step, the courage formed by choosing not to give up.
Outcomes can be stolen, delayed, or denied – but the way you walk along your journey is yours alone. Even the tallest tree is still growing; even the most awakened soul still learns. You have not missed your chance. Every step taken in love, truth, and presence shapes who you are becoming.
When you truly value the journey, you stop asking the world for permission to be enough. You already are. The path home is not upward or forward, but inward; into the steady strength of a heart that no longer needs to be admired to be free.
In the end, to stop shrinking is to return to yourself; to live from a place that neither begs for approval nor hardens against rejection. It is a quiet, steady courage: speaking when truth calls, resting when your soul needs stillness, loving without self-betrayal. When you honor your wholeness, you become both sanctuary and light to yourself and in the world.
And so we continue on life’s journey – not to arrive, but to live, remembering that we’re already whole.
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by Ada Porat | May 19, 2025 | Conscious living, Cope with change, Empowering changes, Mindfulness, Spirituality
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Around us, waves of chaos and change seem to engulf lives, communities and even entire countries. How can we cope with chaos better?
Instead of seeing chaos as dangerous, we can view it as an interdimensional doorway to transformation. Chaos is not to be feared; it is an opportunity for us to grow by aligning with truth, developing our discernment and wielding the power of choice.
Aligning with truth becomes a superpower in a rapidly changing world. And to access higher truth, we need to learn how to discern truth from falsehood. That way, we can identify options that resonate with truth for ourselves and our environment. In this way, changes in our world are not scary; instead, they become opportunities for growth.
Another way we can use chaos as an opportunity for growth, is by discerning the agenda beneath surface events. Wherever there is an agenda for profit or power, it leads to corruption and ends in failure. Where there is an agenda for service, it brings people together to harness their collective abilities and work together for mutual success. Once we discern the ultimate agenda behind an action, we can choose to either align with it or move in a different direction.
Discernment also gives us the ability to make optimal choices because we can separate power from force: power operates from truth, whereas force is used to push ego-based agendas. The ultimate agenda of Higher truth is always inclusive, supportive and for betterment of all. It does not seek to control, judge, or separate.
Chaotic energy also clears space for vast change and fresh starts. As in any type of construction, the old must be removed to create space for new creation. Similarly, chaos often precedes the birth of new ways – which when embraced, offer renewal and when resisted, lead to destruction.
Life always holds up a mirror to us – both as individuals and as societies. As individuals, our actions are reflected back to us by the outcomes and people who show up in our lives. Likewise, projections that have driven the human collective are now reflected back in the outcomes so created. World events are mirroring back to us the ultimate outcomes of force, greed and control – outcomes that don’t feel good and may taint our future.
However, it is not all bleak. By making better choices, we can draw in more optimal outcomes, both at individual and collective levels. Every choice we make from a conscious perspective of inclusivity and betterment leads toward more optimal outcomes.
Choices made from greed or power lead to corruption and ultimate failure. On the other hand, choices made from an agenda of inclusivity and service unite people by tapping into their collective abilities for mutual success.
To create better conditions for a better world, then, we need to change our agenda and make more informed choices. Individual responsibility for our actions needs to replace unconscious choices based on rigid beliefs.
We can each start to improve our outcomes right where we’re at in this moment. The Hopi elders gave us clear instructions for this time in their prophecy:
“…there are things to be considered…
Where are you living?
What are you doing?
What are your relationships?
Are you in right relation?
Where is your water?
Know your garden.
It is time to speak your truth.
Create your community.
Be good to each other.
And do not look outside yourself for your leader.”
Is your life a true reflection of your values? Does your work align with your values, or are you compromising your truth for a paycheck? Are you living the life you want for yourself, your children and the future? If you’re not content with the outcomes reflected back to you, it’s time to make different choices.
Each one of us has the power and the responsibility to align our lives with our highest truth as we understand it. Chaos in our world becomes inevitable only when the underlying infrastructure of greed, manipulation and control is no longer sustainable.
Either we change, or chaos changes us. When we yield to the deeper process chaos offers, it becomes a powerful tool that can create new dimensional doorways to freedom.
During times of epic change, chaos dismantles the rigid infrastructures of limiting beliefs and forceful attitudes, so that meaningful change can take place. Chaos can come suddenly, shockingly and in unexpected ways. It tends to dramatically dislodge our allegiance to past structures and attitudes, opening us to new concepts that are more supportive.
Experiencing chaos in your life is not necessarily a sign you’ve failed; rather, it can indicate that sub-optimal things in your life are being stripped away to make space for a better infrastructure. You have an important participating role in this process of change, because you can choose what to align with and what to focus on.
Allow change to change you!
Choose faith over fear; truth over illusion; power over force. Focus on developing courage, not cowardice. And keep your eyes on the goal: remember what you’re here to do, what you desire to create, and the optimal outcomes you want to see.
The breathtaking potential of your intention aligned with Higher truth gives you access to transcendent power. This is the power that can drive meaningful change for the ultimate betterment of your life, your community and all of humanity. That power is within you – so align with it, embrace it and step into your role as a co-creator of reality.
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by Ada Porat | Oct 15, 2024 | Conscious living, Cope with change, Empowering changes, Life skills, Personal growth, Self-awareness
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What if, instead of trying to control the process of change, we learned how to make the most of it? Change has been called the only constant in life, and learning how to flow with it can turn the very process of upheaval into a powerful ally.
When we resist the process of change, we also resist the flow of life. Our attempts to control change lock us into identification with the content of the change process instead of its context. It also narrows our focus so we lose touch with the inherent perfection of each moment as it unfolds.
Here are some simple principles to flow with the process of change and make the most of it instead:
Identify With The Contextual Field
We often resist change because we do not want our sense of peace disturbed. A better solution is learning to identify with the contextual field, and not the shifting contents of life. We can choose to focus on the larger picture or context of life, and allow the shifting details of life’s contents to flow past us without attachment or aversion. As each wave of probabilities show up, we are free to select which aspects to focus on and which ones to pass on.
When faced with a job change, for instance, you can focus on attracting an opportunity that would bring you into more alignment with your core values. This aligns you with the context of the Field, not the myriad tiny details. Then, allow this contextual focus to bring you specific opportunities to choose from. By identifying with the contextual Field, you can trust the law of resonance to bring you opportunities aligned with your intentional focus, so you don’t need to control the process.
Really Letting Go
Change can take many forms as we continue to grow into new ways of being, leaving the old behind. We may need to leave behind relationships, jobs, friends, homes or other vestiges of the old that no longer serve us. To really, really let go of the old, there may be aspects of loss and grief that need to be acknowledged.
By acknowledging and expressing our feelings of loss and grief, we can move beyond circumstances and people we have outgrown, so we can move on. It is very important to process these emotions, for it is in expressing them that we find freedom and healing. Emotions that are suppressed never go away – they simply resurface further down to road for us to deal with!
Flying Blind
In shamanic cultures, the bat represents powerful medicine. Bats do not have sight, yet dart about with incredible accuracy and speed because they trust their inner radar. You, too, may feel as if you’re flying blind amid the chaos of sudden change. However, this is an opportunity to trust your inner radar. When deeply connected to your inner guidance, flight through the unknown takes you to higher ground.
Flying blind also challenges our preconceived concepts of life. Fear may prompt us to resist change, yet faith calls us to surrender to the process, trusting the Divine guidance within. As soon as we let go, the current of change can carry us to new perspectives with grace and ease.
Turbulence and Cross Currents
From an energy perspective, any choice or action can be observed as a wave form that ripples outward in all directions. In quantum physics, this phenomenon is known as the Lorenzo Effect. Energies we’d set in motion through previous choices may continue to ripple out and back like waves for a while afterwards. As we make new choices, the old and new wave forms can clash, resulting in turbulence known as standing waves, cross currents and even collapsed waves. We may experience the turbulence as mental fog, confusion or overwhelm.
Don’t let this temporary turbulence throw you off course. It’s part of the process of shifting direction! If you can stay focused during change, the temporary turbulence will give way to a current of greater clarity, ease and understanding.
Remember Why
Overwhelm and confusion only arise when taking our eyes off the goal. When feeling overwhelmed by the process of change, simply bring your focus back to the reasons why you chose change in the first place.
It is normal for change to embody a sense of upheaval. Clashing beliefs, crashing hopes and the looming unknown may bring into question many values you’d blindly accepted before. This is a great opportunity to choose differently. You can respond to change effectively by revisiting core values and bringing your life into more alignment with your soul’s purpose.
Fine-Tune Your Compass
Each one of us creates our own reality, moment by moment. When we set our intention unwaveringly on reaching our highest potential in life, we become unstoppable. Our very being starts emanating the frequency of what we hold in mind, thereby drawing resonant outcomes to us every moment through our continuous intention.
Is change rocking your world right now? This may be an appropriate time to ask yourself whether you are living the life you really want. Are you really doing what your heart desires, or are you compromising for the security of a job, social status or acceptance? Are you deeply fulfilled and joyful, or is dissatisfaction gnawing at your bones?
Remember, your experience is your choice!
To change your experience of life, you need to change your mind about things first. If life doesn’t serve you well, you can change it! It’s as simple as that.
The more consciously you participate in creating your reality, the more you’ll resonate with the outcomes that follow. Even when you do not have control over what shows up in your life, you always have complete power over the response you choose.
Growth – The Ultimate Gift Of Change
Even the subconscious motivators that drive or sabotage our behaviors 90% of the time, can become allies to help us make the most of change. By becoming aware of these triggers, we can clear limiting beliefs from the subconscious, embrace healing for the wounds of trauma, and pave the way for our highest expression of being. This process of fine-tuning and transformation can lead to profound personal growth, which is the ultimate gift of change!
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by Ada Porat | Aug 19, 2024 | Conscious living, Cope with change, Empowering changes, Fear and anxiety, Life transitions, Mindfulness, Peace, Spirituality
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Are you feeling strained, bombarded by paradox and mixed messages everywhere you turn? You’re not alone!
More than ever, the boundaries between light and shadow have become blurred. What is true and what is not? What should we choose and what decline? Welcome to the challenge of finding balance between paradoxical paradigms!
We have the capacity to navigate through this time, but we must learn how to do so effectively. Our future depends on it!
To thrive in a world awash with paradox, we need discernment to determine what is appropriate for us, because the solutions for loved ones or friends may not be optimal for us. We need to master how to cherry-pick optimal choices for each of us individually, even when the majority leans in a different direction.
Truth can be fluid, twisted, and modified. It looks different from different levels of consciousness, and so the truth for each of us is about what is appropriate for you or me at our individual place in consciousness; what is harmonious with our individual levels of learning and understanding right now.
There is no need to fear the confusing paradoxes and anomalies around us. Each one of us is continuously connected to our souls and beyond that, to the Creator energy that sustains and protects us. Whenever we consciously take in information, that Creator energy within empowers us to transmute what is not helpful, and to embrace what is.
Thriving in the paradoxical paradigm requires us to evolve into higher levels of being by leaning into our spiritual identity. It requires us to step out of the limiting box of group-think and tribal alliances. We make optimal choices when we bypass the ego noise and choose from our hearts. And so, we need to become inner-directed, self-regulating beings who receive our guidance and discernment from within to lead and keep us safe. We must funnel information through the true filter of our hearts to determine what is appropriate for each of us individually, and to select what resonates with our unique energy field.
The potential for spiritual evolution for everyone on the planet is enormous at this time. As cosmic radiation and photon light penetrate planet Earth traveling through the photon belt, everything is speeding up and evolving faster. We can tap into that energy by strengthening our heart connection with Spirit, evolving our consciousness and staying present with each moment. The path of spiritual evolution requires good spiritual hygiene – the ability to steer clear of traps and to nourish ourselves appropriately. Here are some thoughts on how to apply it in different areas of life.
Filter exposure
It is important to pay attention to the external environments we expose ourselves to. When we take back our power from externalized loci of control, we become self-regulating, empowered beings who navigate without fear. Technology is not our boss; it is merely a tool that can be used in service to our truth and level of consciousness.
Navigate from the heart
Navigation from the heart is the way forward. It will draw to us not only what is necessary for our individual journeys, but it will also guide us to higher levels of awareness and empowerment. This connection asks us to step away from outer chaos and to connect to the Source of truth within. It transforms us into inner-directed, self-regulating beings.Our heart connection is a powerful, sacred tool. Each one of us has the ability to focus inward and to access the wisdom within to guide us on our sacred journey of individuation. We’ve been given the freedom to choose; so let’s choose wisely. This inner wisdom is not to be squandered on defending our ego stance or judging others; it is a sacred tool to help us transform our choices, outlook and being.
Support your physical vehicle
Likewise, our physical bodies need optimal support to thrive. We may need to take our power back from substances or limiting habits that do not serve us. True power is not found in external substances, but in the limitless consciousness that we are, manifest in human form. Our bodies are uniquely resilient and calibrated to keep us safe. To function best, our bodies need to be guided by higher consciousness, aligned to our inner life Source and nourished with respect. When aligned this way, the body will find optimal ways to create the reality we focus on.
Mind your mind
Our thoughts become things, so let’s choose wisely. To let our light shine more brightly, we must maintain our balance within an ever-expanding universe, and replace judgment with curiosity. We can become curious about possibilities instead, and embrace that which brings peace, harmony and joy. This is a time to avoid the temptation to vilify, judge or criticize ourselves or others, for it serves no positive purpose. Instead, we need to catch ourselves when defaulting into old habits and bring back our focus to this present moment, where all possibilities exist. Over time, we will become what we focus on. That is why it is so important to discipline our minds and focus on things that are congruent with our level of consciousness and understanding – our survival and thriving absolutely depend on that.
Grow into maturity
Navigating these times calls for discipline and maturity as well. It takes commitment, repetition and discipline to bring our minds into alignment and keep focusing on our inner truth. Distractions are everywhere! Learning to manage our individual consciousness with maturity and self-discipline, is essential if we wish to effectively navigate the brave new world emerging around us. This is a core truth that needs to be practiced by everyone who wants to thrive in the coming years.
Choose where to focus
We also need to wield the power of focus effectively. We are on the cusp between two very different paradigms, the old and the new. Even as the old paradigm is being laid bare and seen for its limitations, new options are emerging. There is no need to continue entangling with the old, whether through judgment or resistance. It is helpful to remember that whenever we resist or fight something, we’re actually entangling our own energy with that field. And what we resist, persists! We need not obsess with destroying the old; the power of our aligned intention will simply continue to expand what we focus on, allowing old, abandoned constructs to shrivel up and die. Whatever we focus on, grows; whatever we withdraw our Life Force from, will drop away. Disciplined focus also banishes all fear. When our inner truth filter guides us, we become fearless. We can embrace the future, the new and the unknown without anxiety. We stand strong and navigate with confidence, because we filter, choose and navigate from the heart.
Align with true Power
The more we tap into the power of our alignment with the Life Force, the more effectively we’re able to focus that creative force in us on what we desire, align with and are harmonious with. As each of us, at our unique levels of consciousness, embrace this practice of alignment and discipline our focus to embrace what is desired now, the rich tapestry of our emergent world will thrive. The more aligned we are, the more access we have to channel our Higher wisdom and discernment. Over time, it brings mastery. Collectively and individually, this is how we create new habits, new structures and a new world.
Answer the call
We are called to become lighthouses for consciousness. The more light – representing higher levels of consciousness – we hold in our intentions, the quicker the old will drop away so the new can emerge. During times of external conflict and confusion, let’s choose to marinate our hearts in loving kindness and truth. Let’s sterilize all negativity as we breathe in peace, and breathe out all conflict, dissonance and pain. Let’s release what no longer serves, so we can remain perfectly aligned with our unfolding potential. We are the co-creators of our emerging new reality, so let’s stand in truth and trust the wisdom that guides us!
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by Ada Porat | Jul 24, 2024 | Empowering changes, Gratitude, Healthy boundaries, Life skills, Personal growth, Resilience
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Living your best life is all about making the most with what you have right now. Clearing the cobwebs from old, limiting thinking can be a great way for you to shine. Here are ten truths to challenge limiting beliefs and empower you so you can make the most of your life now:
1.Nobody knows why anybody does anything – and it doesn’t matter.
You don’t have to figure out why your neighbor ignores you or what happened to someone as a child to make her so mean. We humans are products of both our nature and our nurture – most of the time, we do things simply because we can. Trying to figure out why keeps us stuck in the past, so stop the over-analysis. Let it go, be here now and don’t take things personally!
2. Nobody owes you a thing.
Life is a precious gift, not an entitlement. You could never repay the time, love and support it took to get where you are today: loved ones, teachers and peers believed in you, challenged you and pushed you to become who you are. So, the real question is not what you can get from life, but what you are giving back in return.
3. You’ll be balanced when you’re dead…
Not a moment sooner! We chase balance like the Holy Grail, but it is the very cyclical nature of change that adds momentum to life. If you’re passionate about something, you may well want more of it in your life, so go for it. Your kids won’t turn into losers if you miss a few softball practices, so ease up on yourself. Learn to surf the waves of change with inner equilibrium instead.
4. Multi-tasking is an oxymoron.
Don’t be intimidated by people who do five things at once. Studies show that we don’t actually do more than one thing at a time – we simply switch our attention rapidly between projects, and we compromise on the quality of our output. Would you feel comfortable with a surgeon who juggles performing your surgery while texting and making phone calls? Choose to be masterfully present with one thing at a time instead of trying to be a jack of all trades, and you will ultimately be more effective.
5. You don’t deserve anything you have.
If in doubt, go back to #2. Entitlement is really unattractive. No matter how hard you’ve worked or planned, it is delusional to think that you are in complete control of the outcomes. God, circumstance, the actions of others, and timing all play big parts in your success, so skip the entitlement and practice gratitude for what life brings.
6. You’re ordinary.
Relax, it’s a compliment! Ordinary people are reliable, industrious and consistent. Superstars often lose their inner freedom to the demands of fame, especially when their egos take over. Who would you rather call at 2 AM when your car breaks down – Tony Robbins or your brother-in-law?
7. You’re not a victim; you’re a volunteer.
The old saying that nobody can take advantage of you without your permission is true. We teach people how to treat us. If you don’t want something to happen anymore, don’t set it up in the first place. You change your life by changing yourself first.
8. You’re right. Life isn’t fair.
Life is more random that we could have ever imagined! It is also interesting and instructive when you keep an open mind, for it is from the seemingly random dynamics of change, that miracles emerge and possibilities show up.
9. There is no perfect time.
There is no place where time stands still and standards are lowered to keep you in your comfort zone. At any point in time there are only three things present: you, and life, and this very moment. What you make of this present moment, is up to you. What are you doing with your life right now?
10. Gratitude is next to Godliness.
Cleanliness is way down the list! I have yet to encounter someone at the end of life regretting the dust on their furniture or the stains on their windows… but many regret the opportunities for gratitude they passed up. Eckhart Tolle puts it this way: “Acknowledging the good that you already have in your life is the foundation for all abundance.” Look for things you can be grateful for and you will be amazed at how many more blessings show up.
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